When someone we love is going through a difficult time we want to help them. We wonder if we could say or do just the right thing to make it all better. Or if we could say or do the wrong thing and ruin everything! Don’t be afraid to be there for them! Understanding their stress response can give you the key to being a comforting friend.
We thought we would handle grief so well together, until the rubber hit the road. Then he wanted to talk. And I really didn’t. We weren’t coping well.
Discovering the four ways of coping under pressure gave us an understanding of how and why we respond differently in difficult times.
When my friend asked me if I had some ideas about how she could get a handle on all the great spiritual practices that she believed she should do, which she wanted to do, but which felt overwhelming to tackle as a whole, I thought of housecleaning. And then we came up with a brilliant plan!
When our loved ones respond differently than we do during difficult times it may be helpful to know that our first response to pain can vary. There are four typical ways that we respond in our first flinch of emotional pain or grieving: numbing, mulling, venting, and frenzy.
This is the story of the time God used a broken dryer to remind me that we all have personality differences and that’s a good thing!